Why Do Relationships Break?
In the past, it has been said that the average time people spend in a relationship or the average time people spend in love is seven years. However in recent times, that has changed. There has been a steady decline in the number of years people spend together. In fact, the number of years predicted for people to spend together is 18 months to 2 years on an average.
Very simple if you ask me: People mistake being in love for the feeling of tiny butterflies roaming in their stomach when they meet first. But that is really never the case. In fact, sometimes, how you start off your relationship doesn’t matter. Love is really not about the initial stages of infatuation but about something more; a decision made by both partners to be together no matter what.
There are five stages relationships pass through:
Stage 1: Hot Passion and Romance
Here, the two people involved are really just getting to know each other, there is a lot of romance, passion here. Butterflies keep flying around in your stomach when you see the partner.
Stage 2: Getting serious
Here the couples decide to be serious about the relationship. This is still the honeymoon phase, there is still a level of hot passion though not as much as the first stage.
Stage 3: Blinders off!
Here the blinders are off. You now see your partner for who they really are. Here you start to question if you really want to be with this kind of person. Most relationships never move past this phase.
Stage 4: Moving beyond infatuation
You make the decision again to be together and this time it is for real. You now know this is the person you really want to spend the rest of your life with.
Stage 5: We are a team!
Here, your decisions shift from being individual decisions to being the team’s decision – you and her. Here, life plans are made now, life plans about children, living together, etc. Most relationships never get here.